Comments on: Friendship Is Countersignaling http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/04/23/friendship-is-countersignaling/ In a mad world, all blogging is psychiatry blogging Fri, 24 Jul 2015 20:46:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.2.3 By: duffman.c.d http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/04/23/friendship-is-countersignaling/#comment-121389 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 09:33:49 +0000 http://slatestarcodex.com/?p=1898#comment-121389 I would love to know how much of a cultural aspect there is to how acceptable this behaviour is. There is a stereotype (within Australia at least) that Australians use this counter-signalling a lot. “You’re an Aussie if you call your mates c*%t and strangers/enemies mate.” But I haven’t actually travelled to another English-speaking country so I don’t really know if this is the case. Anyone noticed a difference between countries? Between sub-cultures?

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]]> By: *Slate Star Codex* | Nation of Beancounters http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/04/23/friendship-is-countersignaling/#comment-118926 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 17:41:59 +0000 http://slatestarcodex.com/?p=1898#comment-118926 […] 4. Friendship is counter-signaling. […]

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]]> By: The Unified Theory of Humor | Living Within Reason http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/04/23/friendship-is-countersignaling/#comment-71344 Tue, 06 May 2014 21:49:15 +0000 http://slatestarcodex.com/?p=1898#comment-71344 […] of my favorite types of humor (and one of the easiest to screw up) is countersignaling. As Scott Alexander explains in the linked post, “countersignaling is doing something that is […]

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]]> By: Anon http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/04/23/friendship-is-countersignaling/#comment-65193 Sun, 27 Apr 2014 15:56:01 +0000 http://slatestarcodex.com/?p=1898#comment-65193 Book recommendation: Impro by Keith Johstone. Money quote: “friends are people who have agreed to play status games together.”

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]]> By: Sebastian http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/04/23/friendship-is-countersignaling/#comment-63910 Fri, 25 Apr 2014 22:47:13 +0000 http://slatestarcodex.com/?p=1898#comment-63910 I’ve also just noticed a form of countersignaling — in the FIRST Robotics Competition, good teams put up a selection of the banners they’ve won at competitions in the past in their pit area, in order to show that they are strong. However, the very best teams never put up any banners, because everybody knows them, and would never mistake them for teams that don’t have any banners.

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]]> By: Ialdabaoth http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/04/23/friendship-is-countersignaling/#comment-63646 Fri, 25 Apr 2014 17:32:23 +0000 http://slatestarcodex.com/?p=1898#comment-63646 heh. I went to a high school full of religious fundies, which sort of doubled down on the whole thing (and taught me everything I need to know about social darwinism).

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]]> By: Said Achmiz http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/04/23/friendship-is-countersignaling/#comment-63639 Fri, 25 Apr 2014 17:21:27 +0000 http://slatestarcodex.com/?p=1898#comment-63639 I totally had this experience in elementary and middle school! It was pretty horrible.

My solution was to go to a high school full of nerds. Cleared that issue right up.

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]]> By: Ialdabaoth http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/04/23/friendship-is-countersignaling/#comment-63623 Fri, 25 Apr 2014 17:03:09 +0000 http://slatestarcodex.com/?p=1898#comment-63623 One of the most important lessons I learned in grade school was to never trust this kind of countersignalling. I spent a long time thinking that people were just performing friendly jibing, when in fact they were *pretending* that their actions were friendly jibes while actually viciously mocking me – and then having a good laugh at my obliviousness.

At the same time, whenever I attempt to perform such countersignalling, it is almost invariably interpreted as legitimately hostile, rather than as a friendly jibe.

I think I’m just terrible at being and having friends, at least partially due to being hideously low-status.

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]]> By: Douglas Knight http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/04/23/friendship-is-countersignaling/#comment-62985 Fri, 25 Apr 2014 03:25:11 +0000 http://slatestarcodex.com/?p=1898#comment-62985 Nydwracu, deleting a comment does not automatically delete its responses. Instead the responses become top-level comments at the very end, even after newer comments. I think threading is destroyed. See the end of the comments here. However, I haven’t seen any “real comments” in response to spammers, only jokes about spammers.

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]]> By: nydwracu http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/04/23/friendship-is-countersignaling/#comment-62967 Fri, 25 Apr 2014 03:06:21 +0000 http://slatestarcodex.com/?p=1898#comment-62967 Get people to stop responding to spambot comments so they can be deleted without losing any real comments.

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